Men behaving sadly.

Alarming rates of alcoholism, workaholism, hypertension, heart disease and divorce in the male population is a sign that something is terribly wrong. What is clear is that men are in a lot of pain. They are the walking wounded.
John Eldridge says that every man has a wounded soul, often to do with his own father and this causes him to live out of a false self. It can only be healed as a man becomes vulnerable enough to allow himself to be loved by God and begins to live again in dependancy upon God. For him the beginning of the spiritual life actually comes with the acceptance of a wounded self.
My own father left us when I was 16 and it took years before I could admit the pain. We had no contact for 18 years and only when I managed to get in touch. It was an issue of forgiveness on my part but at times the cure was worse than the disease! It was painful but when I finally admitted it [the pain] things began to improve. Is there little wonder that men are not making progress spiritually if they are alienated from church, confused about their identity, hiding behind macho behavoiur and carrying so much pain?
What can be done?